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Day 08: Five things that irritate you about the opposite/same sex

Usually i wouldn’t endorse this because traits are seldom gender exclusive, but i’ll try.

1.

Extreme or misinformed feminism in women. If there is a justifiable claim of women being disadvantaged (artificially), then as with any other cause it’s one worth fighting. But too many times women have a misguided sense of what feminism is about. What we want to champion here is egalitarianism. But so many rant and rave about female power/male inadequacy. They may see themselves as better than the male species – and ask for the population to recognize that. They may also demand for rights greater than those of the modern man. What they don’t get is that by doing so they’re not subverting patriarchy. They’re just establishing matriarchy. I believe in yin/yang and natural balance. I accept that, by nature, men and women excel in different areas. So by God, extreme feminists please quit bitching and making your own gender seem even dumber than we already appear to be. If you think men are inclined to attain better office at work – instead of channelling your energy into changing this with huge banners and bonfire bras, why don’t you work harder (than men, yes unfair but that’s life) so there’s at least one living proof that women can do well. Please.

Yeah you probably shouldn’t get me started on feminism.

2.

Men who try too hard to be gentlemen. I don’t know why this annoys me because it’s a generally harmless trait and usually leads to nice things like car rides and subsidized meals.. but it’s probably because I’m averse to phoniness and i think the concept of the Gentleman is a phony one. Why? Because, again, egalitarianism. If you were a good person, you’d be nice to both genders. The reasons why one would opt to be a ‘gentleman’ (which i interpret as someone who’s extra nice to ladies) rather than just a nice man: 1) ulterior motives, to score points with women, they want to make a good impression – but only with females because of romantic interests. THAT’S phony. 2) they think of women as the fairer sex who ought to be babied and taken care of. So in fact, by being nicer it just entrenches patriarchy/chauvinism. PHONY. 3) When i pointed the first two out to a friend who prides himself to be a gentleman, he debunked them claiming he just has a pure love for females – and that he genuinely thinks of them as superior to the male species. That’s relatively acceptable but i still don’t like the idea of a male/female superiority divide. I don’t get why people can’t just accept that men or women we’re just people of the world and honestly gender matters so little it’s just people who make a big fuss of things.

3.

That certain way women garble in public. Loudly, maliciously, and with frequent eye rolling. I know men gossip/gripe a plenty too – but there’s this certain frequency and aggression i’ve only seen women reach. It grates on my nerves.

4.

When men take themselves very, seriously. Lol. K this is a somewhat gender-neutral trait, but it’s more predominant in men because they are inclined towards narcissism. Men are often portrayed as the more laid back sex while women are worrisome and uptight – that about applies for general situations.. but when it comes to certain issues, there are these men who go all sensitive and take things personally. Women would probably sulk and passive-aggressive the hell out and i don’t mind that because i’m great with ignoring and i don’t take guilt trips. But these men take the offensive and go all self-righteous and want to challenge you. It’s a total minefield.. And they say women are difficult.

5.

I honestly can’t think of any more.. because there are so little things that irritate me i can consider gender specific. So i guess it’s a guy/girl tie-breaker yay! Egalitarianism!