God says Sorry to Pastor Kong Hee, and how we’re Missing The Point

Most of you would have heard of Pastor Kong Hee and his statement about God’s apology, which setting off a wave of outrage and the subsequent retaliatory influx of people in defense of him.

I just watched the video, and came to the conclusion that

everyone is missing the point.

Pastor Kong’s speech (sermon?) might have made you slightly uncomfortable – you feel that something is fundamentally off about what he’s saying, but being lazy, we latch on to a convenient point of contention we then sensationalize and use for cyber-bashing.

In this case, the convenient point most have latched on to for criticism is that he claimed God apologized.

By doing so – by extrapolating that single statement for nitpicking – is EXACTLY what the anti-church camp often condemn churchgoers for: taking things (/the bible) out of context.

Essentially, they are bashing Pastor Kong Hee without knowing why they are bashing him (sounds familiar?)

This disturbs me because when I take a stand against or for anything, I need a sound reason. I want to think through and justify my resentment or love for everything, which sometimes can be tedious, confusing, but – in my opinion – necessary.

Pastor Kong’s ‘sermon’ made you vaguely affronted and uncomfortable because there are several fundamental problems rooted in the way he is running a megachurch.

These underlying issues are what we should be looking into and surfacing for discussion, not merely how God is apologizing etc etc.

And since the movement has been mostly shoddy about ruminating and articulating what they really think, I’ll try to break down some of the things that should be brought up instead.

This is why Pastor Kong Hee’s speech wound you up:

1. Why is he so eagerly defending and justifying himself…

If it is Pastor Kong’s belief that God has chosen for him a path of suffering alone, I can respect that. But he has imposed upon a congregation this belief, and essentially voided what (he apparently thinks) God intends for him.

If he truly believes that God wants him to suffer, and to suffer alone, then what he should be doing is to humbly accept the public persecution and have enough faith to ride it out knowing that it would eventually end.

Instead, he is telling everyone that he is suffering, as a hero, chosen by God. He is glorifying himself. This is neither suffering, nor is it suffering alone. He has instead turned the tide of condemnation and harnessed it for stronger popular support.

Basically, this intense justification would not have taken place if he actually believes what he’s arguing for in the video.

2. …with it self-indulgently disguised as a sermon…

This is a prevalent problem with megachurches that really gets to me (and is one of the reasons why I left church).

A sermons’ main priority is to “talk on a religious or moral subject”. Its goal is to educate, to enrich the spiritual life of Christians through teachings. What is Pastor Kong’s message here?

Maaaybe that in instances of wrongful persecution, we should think of it as pre-ordained by God. If that were the lesson at all, it is a very self-indulgent one: it aims at soothing the self, instead of teaching you to live out God’s words.

To be a Christian is not just about having a religious balm for all your woes. It is about work, about servicing others, even if it leads to personal suffering that cannot be shared with others.

This is why I find Pastor Kong’s speech (I cannot, by semantical technicalities, call it a sermon) incredibly self-indulgent. Not only does he deprive the congregation of what should have been a religious or moral lesson, he imposes them with what can only be a a form of self-glorification and opportunistic justification.

3. …in such a contrived, rehearsed, and self-righteous manner?

Another gripe I have with megachurch sermons is that they reek of over-rehearsal and insincerity. In fear of over-generalizing, I shall just discuss Pastor Kong Hee’s speech in the video above.

Can anyone watch it and tell me it is not a performance? The gestures, the immaculate pacing, the contrived accent. The overdosage of self-references. I, I, I. God said to me, me, me. I am a sufferer, I am condemned, but I, I, I will persevere, I will take on this burden, etc, etc.

While I have dissected the fundamental issues with Pastor Kong Hee, the most pressing matter I want to push forward is this:

Everyone needs to step back and think more deeply about issues, by themselves, for themselves.

Guided not merely by your church, or by media sensations. Think more thoroughly about why exactly you have particular feelings about subjects. The problem is that we are stimulated by simple scandals but are reluctant to understand what we are persecuting.

This goes for BOTH anti- and for- camps.

We need more incisive arguments on why we are against Pastor Kong Hee (not just that he is deluded about God apologizing), and why we believe and follow our religious leaders even when they come under fire (instead of just re-bashing haters).

I’d love to hear arguments either for or against this!

Edit:

I did a closer reading of what netizens had to say about the entire saga, hoping to find a post, or even just a comment, that regarded the larger issue instead of fixating on the apology issue, which is merely a manifestation of the overarching problem. The larger issue/problem being the structural leadership of a charismatic megachurch.

It was disappointing.

News reports focussed on the Sorry (although they are the media and their main aim is readership, so somewhat understandable although not admirable).

YouTube comments were painfully tacky attempts at wisecrack revolving around the Sorry (then again, it’s YouTube: watch and bitch is the routine.)

Other local forums involved equally intense debates… that were futile chasing of each other’s tails because um, it’s a non-issue to begin with. Did they even watch the entire video for context?

A miserable few alluded to general function of the church and his leadership. The miserable few did little to elaborate, or else their comments were mired in cringe-worthy shots at satiric humor (omg pls stop).

I call this the Stomp culture. We are a generation perversely hungry for news that expose another for very, very irrelevant and frivolous disgraces. Like reading newspapers on the floor of the mrt station and necking each other in clinics. I mean, whatever.

Can we want more? Can we BE more?

I am so sad and I wish someone would come and challenge me and tell me I’m wrong and why Pastor Kong Hee has done everything right and how megachurches are worthier than I thought so at least I know people out there are thinking along with their bitching.

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  1. Justin Avatar
    Justin

    Meow

  2. Song Avatar
    Song

    Meow Meow

  3. Justin Avatar
    Justin

    I can respect that point of view, song. However, meow.

  4. Song Avatar
    Song

    You say that, but meow meow meow! Did you ever consider meow meow?

  5. rictusempraa Avatar
    rictusempraa

    You guys suck. Woof.

  6. Wow Avatar
    Wow

    Your blogpost is amazing. I like the part about you searching the internet for worthy remarks, it’s nice to know that you have given netizens the one and only insightful comment available online regarding this issue. You have done well, and while this post is trending on Facebook, I believe that not everyone will have the God-given opportunity of chancing upon it. May I suggest that you write and publish a paper on this topic to enlighten the rest of humanity who, unlike you, are obviously not intelligent enough to make sense of the situation and “identify the bigger picture”. You are the saviour of the shallow and stupid, please do not be sad about the lack of thought-provoking comments! With your overwhelming intelligence I can only imagine how difficult and torturous it is for you to read all those trying, unimpressive posts by the bringers of the “Stomp culture”. Also, thanks for coining that term, your contribution to society will be remembered forever.

    1. Jingo Avatar
      Jingo

      FYI sarcasm is not always a sign of intelligence. Especially when you just sound bitter and unfunny.

      1. rictusempraa Avatar
        rictusempraa

        Heehee well said Jingo. ^^

        This kinda reminds me of when my sister first learnt about sarcasm in primary 2, she would say EVERYTHING in this weird tone and draw inverted commas in the air thinking she’s insulting people very incisively it was so cute!!!!

  7. Vanessa Avatar
    Vanessa

    Hi love (: understand where you’re coming from! He’s not my pastor, I’m not from his church, but I think to anyone who criticizes him on public media, there’s no use publicly shaming him and causing rifts amongst the Christian community. I mean as Christians what we do learn is that we shouldn’t judge right? And that we should leave it to God to judge and decide how to deal with the person. By judging them ourselves, we are being just as hypocritical as a self-glorifying pastor?

    Then again, we are all human so it’s normal to make mistakes. Nobody’s perfect, we are all born innately selfish and self-centered. Everyone does things for a reason, and they will justify their actions with what they feel makes sense to them. And call it error in judgement maybe, but that’s not for us to criticize.

    And also as much as I agree with some things that you pointed out, I think it’s quite an over-generalization to say that mega churches’ sermons are all ‘over-rehearsed and insincere’. From one myself, of course I’m defensive hahahaha, but I’m not being defensive for the sake of it. I know what you mean by a sermon sometimes sounding too rehearsed, and that it seems that the preacher is more self-conscious than God-conscious, but I feel that it is an extremely hasty generalization to say that all mega churches’ sermons are like this. Oftentimes, I even find myself subconsciously judging the preacher for not being good enough, not engaging enough, or too harsh. I repent of that of course. But I don’t feel that they are over-rehearsed or insincere at all. I admire the passion and courage to say unpopular things that are for our own good, rather than say things we want to hear just to make us passive churchgoers happy.

    And my dear if the issue with mega churches is the reason why you left church, go look for a church that you identify with then!! Don’t stop going just cause of bad experiences, always good to remain in community (: I miss you btw, haven’t seen you in the longest time!!! And I love you regardless of our differences in opinion haha, but it would be interesting to discuss this one day!

    1. rictusempraa Avatar
      rictusempraa

      VANESSA!~~~ I was waiting for your reply haha. First of all i love you BECAUSE of our differing opinions, and especially how you always stand for what you believe in and give pertinent arguments. You’re one of those who make me admire the Christian cause. <3

      Anyway, yeah I was also afraid of coming off too generalizing and accusatory, so while I do admit that I find several megachurch leaders rather over-rehearsed (which of course does not necessitate insincerity!), my post points out that i'll only be discussing Pastor Kong haha:

      "In fear of over-generalizing, I shall just discuss Pastor Kong Hee’s speech in the video above."

      Like you said, how a pastor's sermon is perceived really differs from each person. If he preaches good and preaches relevant, God-worthy sermons, rehearsal and seeming over-drama isn't so much of an issue. In some cases, it may even help to reach out to youths with its more engaging and vibrant style?

      But when a dubious message is paired with such a style, it strikes me as very insincere and pushy, I guess.

      Thanks so much for your input Ness love you! xxx

      1. Vanessa Avatar
        Vanessa

        Haha yeah la I understand (: but I guess the point that I was more concerned about is the fact that by openly putting him down I don’t think it really helps matters? I mean I won’t say I agree with what he’s saying or doing, but I have no right to criticize. Maybe other pastors at his level will advise him on this because they are after all in the same position facing the same challenges, so they might be of better position to give critical feedback~

        If it were my own pastor, I would admittedly have my doubts, but I don’t think a pastor makes a church. That is why as a church it is also important to keep the leadership in constant prayer because at their level when they make mistakes, the consequences are grievous. I mean personally Ps Khong (Lawrence Khong just to clarify haha) always tells us to pray for him and his family because the devil is always trying to attack them to cause them to stumble. I mean the more influential they are, the more the devil wants to destroy them.

        I know this isn’t applicable to non-Christians la, but I guess I’m trying to say that conceptually, sometimes it’s not that the members of the church blindly follow their leader, it’s more the fact that it is their responsibility to also uplift their leaders in prayer and even more so in times of trouble. Still not saying that I agree with what Ps Kong said or did, but it’s not for his church members to retaliate and criticize him, but for them to pray for him and trust that God has the best master plan.

  8. izeither Avatar
    izeither

    I think longer, more well-thought out posts are usually created way before such hashtag-worthy incidences, or way after the hashtag incidents are over, when people have time to sit and think. For example, you reacted to a hashtag that you felt was rather irrelevant to the overarching topic. On the other hand, the starter of the hashtag is actually, well, my cousin(and her friends) and I’ve been following her/their writings for very long. She has made many comments about religion, religious organizations, megachurches etc. The friends she hangs out with have similar posts and discussions. They’ve probably had more private in-depth conversations that are more related to the fundamental reasons behind why they dislike what they dislike.

    But then over time when every pro they’ve said is amplified by the “other camp” while every con they’ve mentioned is returned with a “YOU ARE GOING TO HELL, YOU SPAWN OF SATAN!!!!”, it starts becoming a joke (that, and/or one gets jaded). Then, people make hashtags because its a more fun way of making a point, where they don’t actually have to spend an entire day on the internet trying to defend their points. So I think I get why some hashtag starters do what they do.

    I know why I don’t like Kong Hee. My personal issue with megachurches (or faith in general) is that I don’t get why people so readily believe in something or anything, and are willing to defend him (And because I don’t understand it, I can only scratch my head in disbelief). But I follow hashtags because they’re funny, and it’s a plus because I don’t like him. Maybe some of the followers and contributors of such blurps are the same, I don’t know.

    So anyway, that was in the defense of starters of seemingly thoughtless hashtags.

    Another observation I’ve had recently is that it takes educated people who for years are taught to be rational and logical, very long to find out exactly why they dislike some people or things, and also for them to make logical arguments. Assuming formal education actually helps the thought process, there is then a whole bunch of people who just aren’t as well educated formally, and are even more susceptible to making such comments. Hell, a few supposedly intelligent Singaporeans tweeples(as they call themselves) with ton of followers don’t even stop to think how they insult the Stomp culture exactly like how the Stomp culture(I really like this term) does it. Couple that with easy access to instant internet and the blurp era, there we go. Thoughtless comments on the internet.

    Anyhow, I think many people go on the net to relax and feel good. Insulting others helps. Not thinking too hard about things helps. Not everyone likes to write well-thought out essays and op-ed in their free time. So maybe that’s why we do what we do. Insult first, and forget to think later.

    Erm. Once again I’ve rambled on in your comments section, but I hope I’ve sort of hit the discussion topic you raised.

    1. rictusempraa Avatar
      rictusempraa

      Hey yeah!! Thanks so much for replying! :-)

      This really excited me tbh lol cause (although i rambled off topic a little), my main point was about the amount and quality of debates going on over issues in Singapore. You’ve addressed it spot on and it’s great to know that there are people around aware of their own stands and opinions.

      Some others have responded privately regarded this as well. They point out that the dearth of engaging discussion online by no means reflect the actual state of debate off line. It might be because it’s so obvious that they don’t see the need to explain it in depth. It was a good stand.

      Thank you *v*

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