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  • Unclean Jobs for Women and Girls by Alissa Nutting

    Began and finished Unclean Jobs for Women and Girls by Alissa Nutting today.

    It was the kind of book that even while reading it i understood it had a genius significant beyond present engagement; the kind i itched to write about after to make sense of just why it is so good.

    It had the eclectic premises i so loved from George Saunders: to address overpopulation, all people had to host another organism on their bodies, a women chose to have an ant colony drilled into her bones – she is later consumed and becomes one with the herd; A porn star sits through a eat-all contest, she is to have anal sex in space with the winner; A mortician smokes the hair of corpses and hallucinates their memories.

    She does this with a startling clarity of unorthodox metaphor, and just the right amount of epigrams. Even the prose was reminiscent of Saunders at his best: concise, unpretentious, in your point – but so cleverly delivered.

    Probably the insight i’ve most gratefully plucked from Nutting’s work, though, is that the best satire does not take a stand. ‘Teenager’ finds the frighteningly casual take of a young girl on sex and her abortion. Nutting frees herself from the onus of criticism – she merely portrays the characters as they are: bored, flippant. If any judgements were made, other roles did so on her behalf.

    The pre-abortion counselor takes on the role of adult, of conservative persecutor: “It’s hard to understand the concept of something being permanent,” she says of abortion. “Having a baby is just as permanent as not having a baby,” retorts our protagonist.

    There is truth in what the teenager said. There is also something vaguely self-righteous and therefore annoying about the counsellor. At the same time there is a disturbing, detached cruelty shading the teen that we cannot shake off. She says of giving birth:

    Vaginal elasticity is a secondary concern […] My vag must stay like the glove in the infamous OJ Simplson trial: too small to fit unless the wearer really, really wants it to.

    We’re forced to think for ourselves, make the call on what we think is right – or realize that there is no right/wrong dichotomy.

    Later, she filches her grandmother’s (on the brink of death and speech-device ala Hawkings) credit card to pay for the abortion. At the juncture between with-fetus and near-death she observes

    It is so gross how we are born and so gross how we die.

    There is something striking how simply Nutting has laid out this fact, as if we are for the first time having a truth brought into sharp focus. Like it has always been there, its truthfulness never verified nor denied, but just there – and then all of a sudden pulled inwards from our peripheral vision.

    Another merit is Nutting’s chameleon-like abilities with perspective taking. She shape-shifts from laughable self-deceiving gullibility to resigned, precocious, apathetic, desperate.

    My favorite character of hers was probably that of the porn star. We know little of her but her current thoughts. I found it especially poignant in the small way she enjoyed being a formless, androgynous figure when slipped into the space suit. She has a quiet desire that we are given just the bare crumbs of, making her a mystery. As the man enters her anally in space, she thinks:

    I feel fine but also very strange, looking at the world and its distance. I feel its weight in my stomach like a pregnancy, like an old meal. When I want to, I cover up the Earth and its oceans with my hand, and then even with the cameras it seems like no one can see me.

    There is something so sad but so hopeful contained in a single imagery, and it is such a perfect imagery precisely because it evokes a shade that i cannot explicate in words.

    Another, less elusive one, that got me:

    My phone is a tightly shut clam and all the badness that happened inside is going to irritate itself into a pearl.

    In ‘Teenager’, in the moment of teenage life gone to shit. Drawing back from more incomprehensible feelings we get the one almost everyone has experienced. The moment of dread and thrill when we’re swimming in drama and are just waiting for the shit-storm to stir and settle before we tentatively step back to reveal the collateral damage.

    Very much in love with this and am hoping Alissa Nutting has written more.

    April 27, 2015

  • Books.

    One of the simplest, most profound joys in my life has to be picking out a book from the library from gut feel, instincts, temporal whim, what have you – and falling in love with it. The kind of trip and stumble that you seldom get from meticulous pre-planning and research. Read the first page and feel the rest of the world shutting down, not to surface again until you’re done with it.

    In my primary school days i spent most of my time addicted to this joy. Every day i’d spend an hour at least (usually more) just browsing the fiction section of the school library. Everything i borrowed, i devoured. I don’t remember borrowing anything i didn’t finish. By my graduation, i’ve read almost every book in that section. An accidental achievement.

    This is a kind of luxury i can’t seem to replicate in my adult years. It seems as if the selection of children’s literature just has better quality control? At the risk of sounding like a snob, there is really an extraordinary amount of crap fiction churned out by authors today. You know what i mean. The pseudo chick-lit sci-fi + any element that is all the rage currently (vampires, dystopia, marshmallows).

    I’m pretty ashamed to admit that of all the books i’ve read, more remain half-abandoned than read. Most of the time, if i am determined to read, i’ll choose something i’ve already read before, or from one of my safe authors. It’s not like my taste in genres is limited too: i love everything from plotless to sci-fi to family drama and mystery. The only thing i’m averse to is overly American fiction.

    Today morning i gripped my bookmark and swept through the rows of unfinished books on my desk, hoping to have something remotely appealing i can slip it into. Nah. It may be that i’m not trying hard enough, but it really shouldn’t be this hard to find a good read. That isn’t the generic nonsense Popular feeds everyone in their “best-selling” array. Ok i’m sounding v pretentious now so i’ll just see myself out. Lol.

    April 14, 2015

  • To be mom

    It’s that time of the cycle again where my maternal desires awake.

    Have been thinking recently that out of all my ambitions (to open an omelette shop, to be in the police force, etc), none has been as constant as my goal to be a mother. Came across a card by a pre-schooler that said “Mommy you are so soft” – my womb started aching from emptiness. I want so much to have a child of my own to love and protect and call mine. To teach and nurture and watch him/her become a human being.

    It’s scary though. Maybe i’m being paranoid, since motherhood is incredibly prevalent (understatement? it’s the very reason for our existence and overpopulation lol) but i fear the many things that can go wrong. Will i be healthy enough to carry a child? Will my child be healthy at birth? Can i provide a stable environment for him/her? In a decade’s time if i reread this i hope to already have a toddler clamoring for my attention. But it may very well be that i’m barren and still yearning.

    There are women out there who are doing amazing things with their lives, mother or not. They have all my admiration. I didn’t mean for my ideals to be so closely aligned to what is expected of women in say, the Victorian era – but it so happens that my evolutionary instincts to procreate is damn strong. Deep down i know it’s not a female thing tbh… even if i were male i’d be as inclined to be a father.

    Want a cute chubby child of mine in my arms gazing at me and calling me mommy so much.. omg.

    April 10, 2015

  • The weight of rain

    It used to be a private affar: the almost tangible weight of wetness and the inescapable racket even an amniotic fort of blankets cannot keep away.

    When the clouds start to crowd I’d feel myself sink – the ground I’m on slowly submerge while everyone else stays level.

    Then I’d hold my breath until the sun is back out again.

    When we started going out, I watched him watch me whenever the ground ate me, and took in his confused concern. It made me almost embarrassed of my passive yielding to the damp, greedy earth.

    “You get in such bad moods when it rains.”

    “I do?” (I know.)

    “Yeah, it gets really bad sometimes.”

    “Oh. I hate the rain.”

    He liked the rain, he told me. Especially when it rains when he sleeps. Everyone loves the rain when they sleep. It’s the first world’s giant cradle, the sheltered modern man’s fuck you to nature on it’s hunt for vengeance.

    My rain dissolves concrete and metal and seeps right through me, into me.

    *

    On his bed, in the lull between words, we lay watching the congregation of clouds both outside and inside me. “You know… you’re making me hate the rain too.”

    I didn’t reply, because there was nothing to say. But this time as I descended into hibernation I felt him grip my hand a little harder and didn’t let go.

    March 31, 2015

  • The Egg Story

    Once there was an ambitious egg. It had lofty dreams for such a inert sphere. It wanted to be a chicken, and the best chicken it could ever be. It wanted to unite all the chickens in the world, and reduce worldwide chicken suffering.

    Soon the little egg hatched into a chick. She was placed in a pen with all the other chicks, optimistic and excited about her future. Everyday, a human hand reached in and fed her grain.  Day after day, she waited for her chance to live. But there was no where to go. She looked to her left and to her right, all there was were chicks that looked just like her; an infinite mirror reflecting the monotony of her life.

    Refusing to let go of her dreams, she tried to fight back. She couldn’t go left, she couldn’t go right. So she had to go up. With all her might she flapped her wings… sometimes it almost seemed possible, but she never got above skimming the heads of the other chicks. Day after day, the squeezed with the other chicks, waited for a human hand, pecked at a scatter of grains. She tried to rebel; to starve, but she couldn’t resist her desire to survive. Her optimism began to wane.

    Soon she grew big and strong. For a time she felt hopeful again, her body told her she had a purpose. And perhaps she was right, because the human hands no longer fed her passive grains, but lifted her into her own cage. The hen was grateful for the peace and privacy, but the solitary space had seemed to forebode an imminent end …

    For the next month all the hen did was lay eggs. Through the night she worked at fulfilling the purpose her body demanded of her, in the morning the human hands affirmed her purpose. But she couldn’t stop to think about this, all she did was lay eggs – tiny, shiny mysteries that were gone as fast as they appeared.

    Finally, she laid what she felt was her last egg. This time, the human hands took her along with the egg. Before she knew it, she was squawking on cold steel as her feathers were wrenched off her. She felt the scald of boiling liquid and indiscriminate hacks all over her neck and chest. Then it was cold – freezing – and it all became a haze

    She woke up in a bath of hot, heady teriyaki broth. She was tossed and shaken and then tenderly laid into a bed of spongy white rice. She looked up, and there it was – that last egg she had laid, her baby, her last hope for a purposeful life – cracked and spreading over her body, warm and slippery with recent death.

    AND THAT, KIDS, IS THE STORY BEHIND YOUR OYAKO DON!

    March 26, 2015

  • I have made peace with LKY critics

    I have made peace with sporadic LKY critics on my newsfeed.

    On the first day, the offense i took was visceral and instinctive. With knowledge of his faults and failings, but respect for his brilliance, i had felt a personal loss. To have others take away my privilege to mourn this loss – much less to say for Lee’s family – seemed unfair. They can do this any other time, i thought. Why now? Why the need to be cruel?

    On the second day, it became a more diffuse disappointment. I shook my head as friends showed me the latest snark amidst the mass of adulatory tributes. But this time, shaking off the bias that came with my private attachment to LKY, i reviewed these critiques. The anti-LKYs posts were varied: there were the irreverent, the pompous; the political, and the emotional. Some raised relevant arguments against his ideology, others dived straight into cold satire.

    I then realized that these voices are necessary.

    It is not that i agree or condone them – far from it. But it is exactly that: as we are allowed to mourn, to exalt, to love LKY; others have their right to do otherwise. How can we condemn others for not feeling the way we do, as if it were a choice? As we are allowed to decry critics for their lack of appreciation, so are critics free to denounce what they perceive as blind idolatry.

    If every. single. citizen. in Singapore expressed only grief, what would that make us? North Korea.

    Ironically, education for our generation – which Mr Lee had placed a premium on – is precisely why the nation consists of a multiplicity of voices. It is why we are discerning, capable of appreciating or disagreeing, bold enough to ram a foot against authority where ideology clashes with one’s own. In a twisted way, we should be proud to some degree that we have space for dissidence.

    Mr Lee was a political legend. A controversial one. And rightfully, such a legend should have his fair share of fans and haters. It means he has been doing it right. If he had been as much of a tyrant as some claim, there would be no criticisms (allowed).

    There was a particular thought i came across: “you cannot separate the man from his politics”. And it’s true. Much as most wish for compassion towards him and his family in a time of mourning, it is inevitable that the outpouring of love will be met with comments from some of his detractors. Many have the tact to keep it in, but others would see this as exactly the right time to voice out against support for LKY — because it is now that it has become most apparent and effusive.

    So here i am to take back my words, or at least dilute them. Yes, i can accept the need for criticism, even if i do not understand it. I’m heartened, of course, that such a vast majority of us care enough to grieve, to be angered by critics. But it is also assuring that Singapore has come to a place where disgruntled netizens can speak up without the fear of arrest.

    I have been accused of many things in my life, but not even my worst enemy has ever accused me of being afraid to speak my mind.

    – 1955, The Wit & Wisdom of Lee Kuan Yew

    Mr Lee, if as a hypothetical other, may have been proud of the presence of dissent, might have been the voice of dissent himself.

    March 25, 2015

  • Fear of water

    Right at the heart of the pool yesterday, a gripping numbness seized my lungs.

    Some background might be useful. Months ago, i attempted to swim with a budding cold. I kicked off a few times, but was struck with a giddying breathlessness each time. Admittedly, this is where i should have quit. But hey, i was already there – and a tough swim seemed more appealing than shaking on the windy benches waiting for J. So i gave it one good go, ignoring the pressure expanding against my chest, threatening to burst.

    In a disorientating moment i lost the easy movement of cutting across water and started grappling aimlessly, sputtering chlorine, my throat narrowing to reed-thin. What ensued was almost comical: a well-meaning but untrained tattoo-ed uncle coming to my rescue, succumbing to my frantic flails and ending up pushing my head underwater; stunned lifeguards sluggish from long periods of disuse; a very confused Justin finding his girlfriend dragged ashore like a dishonored, wilting seaweed.

    Since then i’ve gone to the pool once more. Much of the time was spent toe-ing the water warily. I finally found comfort in trailing by the length-wise edge, my toes scraping the wall in each stroke for luck; for safety. It worked: i could pretty much swim full laps across the deep with my pal, the pool edge.

    Alright, here’s where my foolhardy (more fool than hardy) made it’s determined entrance again. Eager to find my independence from safe walls, i ventured to Lane 2. I gave one solid push, tingling with awareness that sole against tile was the last concrete contact i’d have before i was alone, water all around me: man is now an island.

    I trained my eyes on the tiles below me, exhaled to the saturation of blue. For awhile, it worked. My mind ran through flip-cards of distracting thought: school tomorrow, food later, punctuated with ok keep calm, ok. By then, a seeping, hollowed-out darkness was taking over my body. Believe me when i say this is not hyperbolic: the phobia was thoroughly physical. My heart went so quickly it was a negligible buzz, my muscles resigned and went slack – and that horrid, horrid consuming emptiness.

    In an episode of Adventure Time, Finn developed a fear of the ocean after a drowning incident. His fear is personified as an inky, intimidating cloud sprouting from belly — the Fear Feaster. I never quite did appreciate the uncanny accuracy of this depiction until yesterday. Also reaffirming Adventure Time as an amazing show.

    Remember trashy talk shows (alright, Maury) when participants face their phobias of the most innocuous objects and they yell like they’re skinned sans anesthesia? I used to scoff and think, uh yeah i believe you’re scared but your reaction is so fake. Now i get that fear is different from phobia. Phobia is irrational, is tangible, is all-consuming. Mine – a specific, baby-level phobia – had already such power over my primal instincts.

    Back to the pool.

    I ran out of distracting flip-cards, and the Fear Feaster took root in my brain. It was like an full-on adrenaline rush, except one that ran contrary to survival. I just barely managed to snatch at remaining scraps of courage/rationality, dragged myself across lanes back to the edge (was in reality just two strokes haha).

    Having survived, i found my mild phobia a source of morbid fascination. Almost immediately after, i latched on to the nuances of fear, squirreled it away for later dissection. Maladaptive as it is, i’m almost pleased this happened. Not as a source of self-pity, but to quench a curiosity for the multiplicity of human experiences.

    That aside, i really hope i’d be able to swim freely of my bff, the wall again.

    March 25, 2015

  • Thank you, Mr Lee Kuan Yew

    Dear Sir.

    Loss, i have learnt, finds us in new ways unique to the one we mourn for.

    This morning, groggily, i flipped on the tv just in time to hear PM Lee collect his quavering tone. Cut to you, black and white, wreathed with orchids, a rousing speech; you stoically wiping tears away in the scene we’ve played and replayed through social studies class. The LKY i knew from textbooks.

    Then came the later years, the you i knew throughout my childhood: sharp eyed and articulate. Of these, the most recent images of you in NDP 2014 was especially touching. In them, you had neither the solemn face of a man on a mission, nor the polished, polite smile of a politician. Instead, you held a carefree expression; a smile wide with abandon. You regarded the celebrations and your fellow countrymen with a simple content you so rarely wore.

    It was then that it hit. Perhaps because you looked as any benign, friendly coffeeshop uncle would, perhaps it reminded me of how beyond a hard-nosed luminary, you were a loved husband, father and grandfather. It hit that there would no longer be wise, sometimes entertaining, always brilliant words newly said by this man.

    Sir, all I hope for is that you felt the nation’s gratefulness, that we did (and will do) you proud, that you went knowing your work was fully worthwhile.

    Thank you, and thank you again. With all my heart I pray that you’re now resting well with your beloved wife.

    March 23, 2015

  • Short note on Lee Kuan Yew

    Early in March i picked up LKY’s autobiography. Less than a month later his health is dipping, the nation steeling ourselves for the eventual. I am not devastated, that would be overdramatic of me – but definitely more saddened than i thought i’d be, given how inevitable death is for everyone. He might be brilliant, but he is mortal. It is perhaps this reminder of his human fallibility that shakes us.

    from the straitstimes.com

    The pebble of loss already sits heavily somewhere at the back of my mind. It exists not only for the man who founded my Singapore, but simply for a man who was slicingly sharp; harsh maybe, but undeniably intelligent. Cleverness is probably the trait i revel most in, all things aside, and Mr Lee was one of the cleverest.

    The man deserves a peaceful, painless death; and dignity in departure. This is all i pray for everyday since PMO released the updates.

    Unpopular opinion, perhaps, but i think it cruel to wish him a recovery. At his age, what would recovery be but temporary or torturous? To be frank, i think LKY himself knows he’s done all he wanted to, and he’d find peace in finally being with his wife. I get that most who wished him to get well soon are concerned and well-meaning, though.

    Ultimately i’m quite heartened that everyone has been appreciative of LKY. Even the sector with reservations about PAP’s ways are magnanimous enough to recognize respect where it’s due. Well besides the idiots who released false statements of course. Shit, that boiled my blood. Even if it weren’t LKY, even if it were a completely unknown citizen, think of how hurtful it is for his family.

    It wasn’t even funny, not that humor would have justified the act at all. It made me cringe, thinking about the poor guy who had invested decades building a safe home for us, and getting these meaningless boliao crap. The Asian child in me was stricken with shame, seriously, it was like witnessing a wild sibling waving his genitals about at the sickbed of our parent. I mean, alright, you want to blame him for being strict with you – but c’mon. Grow up.

    Also a great pain to watch was the #prayforLKY selfies on Instagram. My god all the frolicking on green grass, phony mournful expressions while showing your best angles, spending half an hour on meituxiuxiu overlaying LKY images and finding the most flattering filters. Ok but all of you make me sick. You want to selfie then go do so indulgently all you want, stop trying to parade your compassion under the guise of concern.

    Sorry this had to turn the corner into rant city. It is just quite sad to have LKY’s illness being taken so carelessly by frivolous people. Of course that’s just an exceptional few. I hope he doesn’t come to know of these nonsense, because i’m sure he’d be embarrassed by their triviality. Instead i pray that he knows of the surprisingly effusive outpouring of love and respect from the majority, and if he does go soon – may he go in peace.

    March 22, 2015

  • Animals

    If there’s a fact we too often forget, it’s that humans are animals, too. Our executive cognitive function, our gift of introspection, and need for greater knowledge makes us superior animals. But essentially, we are animals.

    Why should we be reminded of that, does it really matter? Yes, because too often we forget our insignificance and limitations. As much as we have free will, we are shaped by circumstances, environment, impulses. There are times we see ourselves as how we are, within the scale of the universe, and be humbled by our smallness and transience.

    We should surpass ourselves, but never think of ourselves as more than we really are. The human race needs some humbling from time to time.

    March 19, 2015

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